Saturday, April 20, 2013

Validation

Merriam-Webster. Definition describes it as follows:

To recognize, establish, or illustrate the worthiness or legitimacy of.

I didn't grow up feeling validated by my dad and therefore sought it out from other men in my life, only to be let down by their imperfection.

Recognition.

When we are validated we are seen as being able.

It's THE QUESTION

"Do I have what it takes?"

Who has the perspective to say yes or no to that?

Establish.

Physics tells us a strong base or foundation is key to successful structure.

If that is true then the lack of an established base effects the success of in this case a boy becoming a man.

Who can build a boy to become a man?

Illustrate the worthiness or legitimacy.

Bringing to light the worth of something comes from knowing what that worth is can a person see the worth of another, I mean really see it?

Giving evidence of something requires knowledge of something.

Can we show evidence to another of how their being alive has worth with our human understanding?

I began to realize recently that I needed to find validation from my heavenly father and from Him alone.

I had been seeking worth, recognition and establishment from people and found I wasn't having my needs met.

Easy solution no human input only God input.

Hold on.

There is a reason that God chose to put human beings togeather in family units that make up communities we need something from each other.

But how do we balance the need for friends, leaders and peers building into us and the need to be established and built by God?

A new word has come into my space CONFIRMATION it's a powerful word.

Merriam-Webster defines it as follows:

The process of supporting a statment by evedence.

I see the need to have confirmations by those God has placed in our lives to support us in understanding what God has called us to and equipped us for.

Without confirmation we can be led into a place where we don't see enough of what's going on.

If we are moving in a direction without confirmation about what we are doing we can fall prey to pride and foolish action.

Our worth cannot be tied to what people think of us but are actions are needing to be subject to confirmation to help us.

I believe our God and Father who called us and establishes us will confirm his plan and direction from those he has put into our lives even if they don't know him personally.

Take away till next time.

Say this with me out loud.

I am established and given worth only by God my Father who sees me wholly.
No person can make or break me.

I need godly fellowship around me to confirm my gifts, talents and abilities to strengthen and support me so I can live out Gods purposes in my life with success.

Validated by your Heavenly Father.
Confirmed by those He's placed around you.

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Easter part 3. Scars

I have scars, I have two on my head from accidents and one on my side where my appendices was taken out. They are evidence of trama done to my body.

I have other scars to but you can't see them scars of things done to me that brought trama that in the doing left no sign and yet cut deeper and hurt more then all three physical incidences put togeather. We all have scars like that, scars of words without thought or with great intent.

We all know the emotional wounds that leave scars on our hearts and yet as I have processed my way through so much healing the scars that I have had the hardest time coming to terms with are not the ones I bear but the ones I have left on others.

You know what I'm talking about, we have all said and done things to others that have cut deep and left scars on those around us.

I have been moved as I have traveled the road toward the cross this year to look at the scars my actions have caused.

I have realised that this year what I needed to leave at the cross was my guilt and shame for the scars I have left on you and others I have met.

In Matthew 20:25,27 we learn that Jesus had scars from his time on the cross that stayed with his resurrected body. I think it was a reminder for those he encountered that it cost him something to hang there and yet as I have looked these last months at my scars and the scars I have given I can't help but realise that they don't matter. Not really, not any more because the scars that Jesus kept remind me today that I don't have to keep mine as reminders and I dont have to be ashamed of those I gave because his scars are the payment for both sets.

I have been asking what has God been asking you to give up this Easter at the cross and this is it for me.
I am giving up the scars I have given and the scars I have received and I am saying they don't matter not anymore because my savior kept his so I didn't have to keep mine.